On Aug 2, 10:49=EF=BF=BDpm, "Kyla =3D^. .^=3D`"
<kyla.water...@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
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wrote:
> What the hell am I doing so wrong NOW?
> CN apologized, =EF=BF=BDI accepted her apology, and left myself wide
open=
for more
> hissiness.
> I'm trying to get this place back to being fun like it used to be is
all.
> Now my 'efforts' are turning on me again.
> Should I even bother posting some cute cat pictures of our clowder?
> *sigh*
> Kyla- Hide quoted text -
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I don't know why I feel so compelled to explain this, but I do. This
has gotten beyond ridiculous, IMO.
Kyla, I don't think you're being malicious, or that you're baiting. I
honestly think you don't get it.
You asked, "What the hell am I doing so wrong NOW?"
1. You started a thread called "If anyone wants to get snarky with
me." Then you mentioned
Catnipped singularly, BY NAME. This sounds like you expect to get a
snarky e-mail from her. This
sounds like you're just trying to drag out all the bitterness a little
further from the "Ping: Kyla" thread.
I am not accusing you of anything. Remember, you asked. These are
merely my observations.
You say you want to move on, have everyone get along, and forget about
the past unpleasant posts. But
you won't let it die. You KEEP bringing it up. If you TRULY want
everyone to "move on", just let it die.
Quit posting *anything* about Lori, or to Lori. She's asked you not
to, and if you really want to heal the division in the group, honor
that request. People here can be very forgiving, and that certainly
includes Lori, but in THEIR TIME. Not yours. You cannot force yourself
on people. . If they want to e-mail you, they'll
figure out your addy. We don't all have to be best friends and e-mail
buddies here. Most of us aren't, but we still can carry on great
conversation with each other, simply because we have a common passion:
our cats.
Post about your cats, your calendar, make comments on new topics, off-
topics, whatever.
That post you made served no purpose, except to get Catnipped all
riled up again (and justifiably so, IMO), did it? . Just slow down,
step back, and read your posts carefully for the tone and message they
convey, before you send them. Ask yourself if you might be dragging
up hurtful thoughts in others that just don't need to be talked about
anymore. You'll either be welcomed, forgiven, ignored or killfiled.
But that's not the end of the world, either. I've been ignored and
killfiled, and forgiven by a lot of people.
In case you hadn't noticed, there's a definite division in the
newsgroup now. I'm not saying that is entirely your fault, but you're
in the middle of it, and you can *help* heal that split, if you want
to, by just stopping
yourself from posting about past discord. Any reference at all. Like
today is the first day and the "Ping Kyla
thread did not even ever exist.
I also get the drift that you correspond privately with several group
members. I hope they can help guide you.
Just my .02.
Sherry
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